When you discover your purpose in life and start living it on a daily basis, you’re expressing the essence of who you really are. Your life is in the flow. You love what you’re doing and you do it well, so you feel exhilarated and uplifted.
You may already know and be living your true life purpose, which is great.
But if you feel that something’s missing, or your situation has changed over the years and you want to find new meaning in life, then now’s the time to renew your hopes and aspirations.
Seven Questions to Ask Yourself
To help find out your reason for being, here are seven questions to ask yourself. They’re designed to help work out what really matters to you.
As you consider each one, keep writing down all the thoughts that come into your mind until nothing more floats to the surface. Don’t be tempted to rush the process. Give yourself plenty of time. And come back to individual questions at a later date if you have something further to add.
What Are You Really Good At?
Think about the natural gifts you were born with, the things you find easy and the skills you have developed. Don’t just focus on work and family, consider your hobbies and interests as well.
What Are Your Highest Qualities?
Focus on the different aspects of your character and personality. What qualities do you have that other people notice? Perhaps you’re a natural peace maker, or you’re always coming up with new ideas, or you’re highly compassionate. Just make a note of all your good personality traits.
What Gives You a Real Buzz and Makes You Come Alive?
There may be some activities you find so exhilarating, that you’re hopping about with excitement at the prospect of doing them. Alternatively, there may be other things you find fulfilling, because they have a profound effect on you and touch you deeply.
What Have Been Your Greatest Achievements?
Think about all the things you’ve achieved in your life. It doesn’t matter whether other people value them or not. And it doesn’t matter if they’ve achieved something similar. The important thing is what you have accomplished personally, particularly if it required huge commitment or endeavor on your part.
What Are Your Regrets?
When thinking about your regrets, there are two things to take into account. First of all, give some thought to things that may have happened in the past. Things which – if you could – you would change or do differently now. And secondly, consider the things you would regret not having done, if you reached the end of your life.
What Did You Want To Be or Do When You Were Growing Up?
Sometimes the thoughts you had as a child cut through all the clutter in your mind. And often, they can provide a clue about what you should be doing with your life.
If You Could Do Anything You Wanted, What Would You Do?
Finally, think about what you would do personally, if you were completely free to choose. For the moment assume you have no financial constraints, lack of time or other commitments. You may want to look at it from the point of view of what you would do if you won a million dollars today.
When answering this question, there may be some things you have always wanted to do, but are simply not possible now, because of health or similar restrictions. If this describes you, then don’t get sucked into thinking about what’s not possible, switch your thoughts to what is possible.
Write Down Your Purpose in Life
Once you’ve gone through these seven questions, your answers will help identify what really matters to you and how you’d like to be spending your time.
Then, when you’re clear about what’s important to you, write down your purpose in life, using the following guidelines:
- Make sure your statement reflects what you want rather than what someone else expects of you.
- Ensure it’s clear and concise, but add enough detail so that the vision of who you are is clear in your mind.
- Write your statement in the first person (using the words ‘I’ or ‘my’) and in the present tense (as though you’ve already achieved your life purpose).
The reason for writing everything down is that it clarifies your thoughts and imprints the vision on your mind. It also allows you to re-read the statement over and over again, ideally out loud, reinforcing the vision.
Your Guiding Light
Once you’ve got clarity about your purpose in life, it becomes your guiding light.
You can then take a look at everything you’re doing to see if it’s consistent with your life purpose. If it is, that’s great. But if it isn’t, you can start to let go of the things that don’t fit in with your new direction in life.
This whole exercise is very liberating and can bring new meaning into your daily life. As you start moving towards the fulfillment of your true purpose in life, you experience greater satisfaction and peace of mind.